Creating Rapport as Soon as You Meet a Woman
Dating is no fun – at least 90% of the time. Figuring out how to meet a woman, how to ask her out, and then how to get through the first date and on to the second can seem like insurmountable hurdles. Especially if you’ve tripped over these hurdles a few times, you’re probably wondering how in the world you’ll ever be able to get through these first few challenges and on to the rest of the race.
You can try all kinds of tip and techniques for talking to women. There are certainly plenty of them out there, and a lot of them even work if you can pull them off. But they all really come down to one fundamental thing. And that’s building a rapport with a woman when you meet her. If you can do that, you’ll be in good shape from the start of the race. That doesn’t mean you’ll win it, though.
Whether we like it or not, the first impression we give a woman will have long-lasting implications. It can even turn them off entirely. That’s not to say that a bad first impression can’t be overcome. It certainly can, but why start yourself off in a hole if you don’t have to?
So how do you make a good first impression? First, you’ve got to carry yourself with confidence. A self-contained, self-confident man is much more attractive to a woman than a nervous, bumbling one. Of course you may not feel that confidence, but you just have to act like it’s there. And the more you act the part, the more you’ll really start to feel confident.
The first impression will only get you so far, though. If you really want to build a rapport with a woman you just met, you’re going to have to show her that you can really be attentive. This doesn’t just mean listening to what she says. It means making appropriate comments at appropriate times too.
The real secret to building rapport with women is making them feel like you’re genuinely interested in what they’re saying while also establishing connections between the two of you. Just be careful not to go too far. The last thing you want to seem like you’re doing is turning everything they say into something about you.
The last key to developing rapport with women is using proper body language. You may be totally unaware of what your body language is saying about you, and that’s going to get you into trouble real fast. Try to keep an open position, getting close enough to hint at intimacy without making the woman feel like she’s trapped.