Reasons She Isn’t Interested and How to Counter

So, you go out and meet a woman, get her number, wait the appropriate amount of time to call, and then never hear back. Or better yet, the number isn’t hers. If this sounds all too familiar to you, it’s because it happens to tons of guys every day. For one reason or another, a girl just isn’t interested in getting to know them at all after the initial encounter.

So why don’t they give you a chance? Actually it could be one of many reasons. Of course, sometimes a woman just isn’t right for you and her lack of interest will tell you that. Other times, though, the lack of interest may be a result of something that you can change.


A woman may not be interested in you based solely on your appearance. This doesn’t mean you don’t have what it takes to be attractive to that kind of woman. You just need to know how to use what you got. Hit the gym, invest in a new wardrobe, maybe even add (or subtract) the facial hair. Altering your appearance in any of these ways can help to increase your natural physical appeal.


when guy is rejected is fucking hurting damnYou have to remember that going up to a woman that you’ve just met doesn’t all need to be about dating and relationships and setting up a time to get together. If you can engage in actual conversation and show the woman that you actually think about things besides picking up women, you’ll be able to get her attention much more effectively.

Keep up on current events, read a book, or even just keep a list of conversation topics handy. Also, practice paying attention to what she’s talking about so that you know what subject areas she might be interested in.

Don’t Hesitate

If you see a woman you’re interested in, either go up to her or don’t. But whatever you do, don’t stare. More often than not, the woman (or one of her friends) will notice you gawking and she’ll write you off before you even had a chance to introduce yourself.

Also, making a quick approach exudes confidence, something that is definitely attractive to women. And best of all, it doesn’t give you time to overthink the whole think and psych yourself out. There’s certainly something to be said for being prepared before you approach a woman you’re interested in, but that preparation shouldn’t come while you’re standing behind her in line at the bank. Get ready ahead of time so that when an opportunity presents itself you can make a good first impression.