Three Secrets to Communication with Women
Let’s face it – talking to women is hard. There’s almost always something that you say that they can twist to mean something else. Or they’re reading too much into something that you didn’t even realize you’d said. Either way, if you want to be successful with women, you’re going to have to learn some of the tricks for communicating with them.
One of the worst things you can possibly do when you’re talking to a woman you’re interested in is lie. It doesn’t matter if it’s just a little white lie – you don’t have to even be covering up anything big. A lie is a lie and you’ll do serious damage to your credibility by telling one.
And the woman will find out – I can almost guarantee it. Either you’ll slip up later and contradict yourself or your body language will give you away. No matter the reason, it’s simply not worth complicating your relationship by lying. So don’t do it.
Think Before You Speak
I know it’s hard, but you really have to try and use your brain before you open your mouth. Especially if you’re frustrated, confused or angry, making some snide remark without thinking is a great way to turn a small issue into a big fight. No matter what you’re thinking, it’s never going to be worth it to get that one last jibe in. Just keep your cool and vent to your buddies later.
Listen and Respond
The truth is that the vast majority of the problems men have in trying to communicate with women stem from the fact that we just don’t listen to what they’re saying. Granted, some women play games more than others, but they’ll still almost always give you enough information to figure out what they’re trying to tell you or why they’re upset.
Ignoring the problem won’t make it go away either. No matter how silly you think it is, you should make sure you don’t just try to brush a woman’s feelings under the rug. It may seem like an exercise in futility, but you’ll save yourself a lot of stress and frustration if you take the time to figure out what a woman is upset about and then talk to her about it.
And be sure not to judge her feelings. You should acknowledge that you understand how she feels but don’t try to trivialize it or act like it’s silly for her to feel that way. Just get the topic out there in the open and then let her run with it until it’s not an issue anymore.